10 Best U.S. Vacation Destinations for LGBTQ+ Families (2021)

Lesbian Couple with Young Children on Vacation
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When you think about inclusive family vacation spots in the U.S., you probably think of Orlando or Anaheim. But beyond the big theme park towns, there are other great cities across the country packed with fun attractions, protected by LGBTQ-inclusive laws and full of LGBTQ-run businesses. The best LGBTQ friendly cities in the U.S. offer a warm welcome to all families.

Best LGBTQ Friendly Cities in the U.S. for Travelers

Check out our top picks (plus must-dos!) and put one of these LGBTQ family-friendly destinations on your travel bucket list.

1. Long Beach, California

If you’re looking to shake up your typical Spring Break plans, this SoCal gem should be on your radar. Long Beach is just down the road from Los Angeles, but feels worlds away. It’s like a quaint and quirky small town straight from a sitcom. And if you’re traveling with your furry family member, Long Beach has the only beach in LA County where your pup can run wild and free off-leash. There’s even an annual corgi beach party! Yes, really.

After all that fun in the sun, cool off with ice cream at either Long Beach Creamery or Afters. For big ticket thrills, visit the Aquarium of the Pacific, take a tour of the historic Queen Mary or cruise the canals on a Duffy boat. And for something totally free, don’t miss the city’s vibrant series of POW! WOW! murals.

2. Fort Lauderdale, Florida 

There’s no doubt that Fort Lauderdale is LGBT-friendly, though it kind of has a reputation as a party town. But there’s another side to this beach destination with great attractions for all ages, such as Butterfly World and the Museum of Discovery and Science. And if you have teens interested in learning about LGBTQ history, check out the Stonewall National Museum and Archives, one of the largest gay libraries and archives in the U.S. The exhibitions change, but it’s a great activity—especially if you have queer teens looking to learn more about the LGBT community and the history of civil rights. 

3. Seattle, Washington 

The grungy capital of the Pacific Northwest is one of the most inclusive cities in America, with several streets in the hip Capitol Hill neighborhood adorned with rainbow flag crosswalks and businesses proudly displaying trans and rainbow flags all-year. If you’re in the neighborhood, do not miss the ice cream at Molly Moon’s. Beyond the touristy stops at Pike Place Market and the Space Needle, Seattle has some great attractions for families, such as the Museum of Pop Culture (MoPOP).

And while the city is known for constant rain, summer in Seattle is sunny and gorgeous. For the ultimate family vacation, come the last weekend of June for Seattle’s Pride weekend, when the region’s thriving gay community takes center stage and there’s a huge LGBTQ+ family picnic and block party. Stay through July 4 for the free fireworks on Lake Union. If you book early, you might even snag a houseboat rental on Lake Union for front row seats to the show!

4. Denver, Colorado 

Denver is a city for the #FitFam with so many outdoor adventures right downtown, from 85 miles of bike trails to the manmade whitewater kayak chutes at Confluence Park. And just outside the city, there’s a world of hiking and camping as it’s only an hour and a half from Rocky Mountain National Park. But for something incredibly special—especially for music lovers—plan your trip around a concert at Red Rocks. The open-air, outdoor amphitheatre in Red Rocks Park has some of the best acoustics in the world.

5. Oahu, Hawaii

All of the Hawaiian islands are very LGBTQ-friendly, so if you’re a same sex couple planning a family vacation to the Aloha State and don’t know which island to choose, it just depends on your family’s personality. If you love the outdoors and hiking, Kauai is your island. If you love hanging out in the water and snorkeling all day, Maui is your island.

But if you want a little bit of everything, Oahu is probably the best bet for your family. Plus, Honolulu is home to the Hawai’i LGBT Legacy Foundation, which hosts several Pride festivals and events throughout the year. If you’re traveling with little ones, consider staying at Disney’s Aulani Resort and Spa, about 30 minutes from downtown Waikiki. The hotel’s cast members (Disney’s term for employees) undergo the same training as park employees for inclusion and sensitivity and strive to create magical vacations for all. 

6. San Diego, California

If half of your family loves to go-go-go on vacation while the other half just wants to relax, San Diego is a great compromise. It’s got a little bit of everything, from the world-renowned San Diego Zoo and the surrounding museum-packed Balboa Park, to some of the best family-friendly—and most wheelchair accessible—beaches in the world. Throughout San Diego County, you can find both manual and power wheelchairs to rent for free. And if you have a car, drive 30 minutes up the coast to The Flower Fields at Carlsbad Ranch. The colorful rows of giant ranunculus are a must-see in the spring. 

7. New York, New York 

NYC is one of the best vacation spots for trans and queer kids as there are so many LGBTQ+ cultural sights to see and be inspired by. It’s a great trip to take if your kid or teen is transitioning and expressing a new gender outside of the home for the first time, or if your child is searching for more LGBTQ+ representation and role models. The Leslie–Lohman Museum of Art is solely dedicated to representing LGBTQ+ artists and, these days, many shows on Broadway feature LGBTQ+ stories and characters.

If your teens love to shop and thrift, funky Williamsburg, Brooklyn is packed with LGBT-friendly boutiques and shops. And for something really special, make a reservation at Bindle & Keep for a custom-fitted shirt, pair of pants or a suit. The bespoke, LGBT-owned company is all about making clothes that are tailor-made to the customer, and the experience can be incredibly powerful for a teen struggling with self esteem and acceptance.

Of course, just as important as seeing the Statue of Liberty, you cannot go to New York City without visiting the new Stonewall National Monument in Greenwich Village. Make sure your kids have their National Parks passports so they can get a stamp for their visit while they learn about LGBTQ heritage and the history of civil rights. 

8. Washington, D.C. 

D.C. is one of the best budget-friendly trips for families because most attractions are free, from the National Mall and the major memorials to 17 Smithsonian museums, galleries and a zoo—all with free admission.

While you can’t see and do it all in one trip, make sure to prioritize The National Museum of American History to see two very important flags: the more than 200-year-old Star-Spangled Banner and the original transgender pride flag. For older teens, the “Illegal to Be You: Gay History Beyond Stonewall” exhibit is incredibly poignant and features artifacts from the civil rights movement through today. For the little ones, the museum’s “The Muppets Take American History” series features adorable surprise pop-ups throughout the museum. Don’t miss Miss Piggy with The First Ladies. Another great free activity is the Hirshhorn’s “Maker Morning” on the first Saturday of each month. The free art class is great for those 12 and younger and features an art project inspired by one of the museum’s works of art. 

9. Chattanooga, Tennessee

The Southeast isn’t the most LGBTQ-friendly region, and some areas can be dangerous for LGBTQ travelers. But as someone in the LGBT community with my own family, I can say that after growing up and living in the South (Alabama, Georgia and Tennessee), there’s a real gem for families and it’s not the big city of Atlanta. It’s tiny, quirky Chattanooga. This funky town on the river has a huge art scene and, with that, a more welcoming, diverse environment than other Southern cities.

And there are tons of attractions for the whole family. The Tennessee Aquarium is one of the best aquariums in the country. Ruby Falls is a must-see. And your little ones will love the fairytale caverns and gardens at Rock City. If all that sightseeing worked up an appetite, head straight to Community Pie for pizza and homemade gelato. And for breakfast or brunch, you have to swing by the eccentric, Halloween-themed Aretha Frankensteins

10. Chicago, Illinois 

Chicago is packed with fun attractions for kids, from the Shedd Aquarium to Navy Pier. And if you do visit the world-famous spot overlooking Lake Michigan, be sure to check out the Chicago Children’s Museum. The museum has an impressive LGBTQ inclusion program with special training for museum staff and community events for LBGTQ families. On the first Sunday in May, the museum celebrates International Family Equality Day with a day of special programming dedicated to LGBTQ+ families, from drag queens reading children’s books to art and music workshops.

If your kiddo wants to go to a game at Wrigley Field, The Cubs, like other MLB teams, do a special Pride night in June. It’s incredibly empowering to see famous athletes decked out in rainbow-colored socks and uniforms. 

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Deanne Revel
Deanne Revel is a travel journalist and host covering the world of theme parks and family entertainment. She loves all things roller coasters, character breakfasts, and parades. Deanne is a packing pro (carry-on always!) and is passionate about LGBTQ travel. When not on assignment, you can find her exploring national parks or theme parks with her wife.