How to Sit Together on the Plane (and Get the Best Seats) When Flying as a Family

Making sure you and your kids can all sit together is the first step to successfully flying as a family.
Family sitting together on the plane (Photo: Envato)
Family sitting together on the plane (Photo: Envato)

While flying as a family can be an exciting experience, flying with kids also has its share of challenges, especially if you don’t fully understand the often-complicated seating restrictions on certain ticket classes. If your perfect flight includes your entire family sitting together in a single row, you’ll have to take steps in advance to make that happen.

Here are some key tips on how to get the best seats on an airplane and sit together as a family.

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What to Do When Booking Your Flight

Southwest Airlines plane at Palm Springs International Airport (Photo: Stephen M. Keller)
Parents with young kids can take advantage of Family Boarding on Southwest (Photo: Stephen M. Keller)

In simple terms, the earlier you book the more seating options you’ll have. “The best way to ensure your family is seated together is to book your tickets early when there is a lot of availability,” advises Heather Pringle, New Jersey network manager for Liberty Travel. And when you’re ready to purchase tickets, make sure you are clear about the types of airline tickets you’re buying and the seat-selection policies that go with them.

Southwest Airlines famously offers open seating, which means you can check in for your flight beginning 24 hours before departure and are assigned a boarding group and position at that time. If you want to sit together as a family on Southwest, being part of an early boarding group is key. Check in right at that 24-hour mark, or purchase Southwest’s EarlyBird Check-In to get assigned a boarding position 36 hours before departure. Southwest’s A-List and A-List Preferred members also get early check-in, and parents traveling with children six or younger can take advantage of Family Boarding between the A and B groups.

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On other airlines, your ability to select seats in advance depends on the ticket class you purchase. If you buy a Basic Economy ticket on Delta, for example, your seat won’t be assigned to you until you check in for your flight. United’s Basic Economy has similar restrictions.

Empty airport gate at sunset (Photo: @truba71 via Twenty20)
Empty airport gate at sunset (Photo: @truba71 via Twenty20)

“My number-one tip is don’t buy the basic economy tickets,” says Shanna Schultz, a travel agent and family travel specialist who runs the website Travel with Shanna. “It’s tempting to buy these tickets because you’re a family of six and you want to save some money … but you’re kind of rolling the dice with those.”

If you book airline tickets through a third-party vendor like Travelocity or Expedia, make sure to read the fine print. Schultz says she’s seen people book tickets through online travel agencies and think they are selecting seats, but in reality they have purchased a Basic Economy fare and don’t actually have advanced seating.

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Sometimes being a member of an airline’s frequent flier program or having an airline or travel credit card can give you advantages with securing seats too. You might be able to select seats ahead of other travelers or have access to certain upgrades or seat purchase options.

Where Is the Best Place for Families to Sit Together?

Flying with kids can be a challenge for parents (Photo: MNStudio/Shutterstock)
Window seats are often a good idea when traveling with kids (Photo: MNStudio/Shutterstock)

For a smooth flight, families may want to consider some upgrades when choosing seats. “If you’re worried about your child becoming restless during the flight, it may be worth paying extra for a seat with more legroom,” says Fred Baker, senior travel editor of Travelness. “This will give the kids space to move around and hopefully avoid tantrums.”

Window seats can also be a good idea when traveling with little ones. “The views not only provide comfort, but they can also serve as a distraction for the young ones, especially when they’ve grown tired of the entertainment options available on board,” says Barbie Mission, a travel research analyst at Trip101. “Seats near toilets avoid panic runs when nature calls, too.”

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Choosing the best section of the plane for your family can come down to personal preference. Some families like to sit near the back where they can be by the bathrooms and worry less about disturbing other travelers. If you need to make a connecting flight, you may want to sit closer to the front of the plane if you can.

Or split the difference and sit in the middle of the plane. Seats over the wings tend to be a good choice if anyone in your family suffers from motion sickness, and you’ll be able to deplane quicker than if you were seated all the way in the back. 

Solving Seating Problems

JetBlue's free wi-fi and inflight entertainment makes it one of the best airlines for kids (Photo: JetBlue)
Free inflight entertainment makes it easier to keep kids busy (Photo: JetBlue)

Even if you book your airline tickets and choose your seats well ahead of your trip, it’s a good idea to check in on things closer to your departure. “Don’t just book the ticket six months ago and not look back,” advises Schultz.

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“The aircraft could change and have a different layout than what was originally booked, or there may be an accessibility need that requires particular seating for a passenger,” says Pringle. “If there is ever a schedule change with your flight, that is a good time to check your seats and see if they have been changed as well.”

The sooner you find out about any problems, the more time you have to resolve them. If you don’t learn about a seating issue until you’re at the airport, take a deep breath before talking with airline staff.

“You will have the most luck with gate agents if you are kind and pleasant,” says Veronica Hanson, a mom and travel agent who runs the website Nomad Veronica. “Don’t wait until the last moment to speak with them as they prepare to board the plane; give them time to call up other passengers to possibly make changes.”

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If you’re not successful in sitting together and your kids are older, use it as a learning opportunity. “I try to prep my kids ahead of time for that possibility,” says Schultz. “It’s teaching them the reality that we don’t always get what we want, and we have to make the best of it. If I prepare them for that ahead of time, it can be a positive experience.”

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Beth Luberecki
Beth Luberecki is a Florida-based freelance writer who writes about travel, business, and lifestyle topics for a variety of publications and websites. She enjoys exploring destinations close to home and farther afield with her husband and teenage daughter. Visit her website at bethluberecki.com or find her on Instagram at @bethluberecki and @findingfloridafun.

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